“Well, I definitely don’t know how to explain that one.” Those were the words that finally came from my very skeptical husband after 8 years of being together. When we were first dating, our differences in our religious/spiritual perspectives caused us to avoid the topic all together. I’d also say, after a few years into …
For over the past few years, I could feel myself drifting from education. Not in the, “I hate this job. I hate coming to work or I hate what I’m doing” kind of drifting… in a, “I feel like I’m being called to do something else” and a, “The thought of missing out on the …
“I can’t do it. I literally don’t have the energy or motivation.” This is what I remember texting to Mike while planning for a little kid party for Ella’s 10th birthday. I needed to be honest with myself and Mike that I knew I didn’t have it in me. After making up hours like crazy …
If you follow this blog with any sort of regularity, you know that I haven’t posted anything since early this past fall. I hit a patch this fall where I was feeling some burn out. Too many things were vying for too little time. It was helpful to sit down and consciously evalute what was …
One of the questions that Mike and I are asked most frequently is: “How do you do it? How are you able to coparent so well after a divorce?” I usually respond with something like: We focus on Ella, but after some deeper reflection, I think it boils down to these 3 things… #1: We …
It’s easy to get lost. From busy schedules, to gift buying, to visits– holidays can cause you to lose your perspective. Alas, the best opportunity to start fresh comes in just 2 days. A new year. As an adult, I have a newfound appreciation for what January offers us– the opportunity to shift our perspective …
“My ex-husband is planning to go overboard with presents this year, and I just can’t compete with iPhones and gaming systems. What do I do?” Our local radio station aired this question from an anonymous listener last week and my heart broke for this coparent. The responses of advice from listeners varied from, “explain how …
Two weeks ago, I wrote about how to not get lost in jealousy or anger because time goes so quickly. Letting your child fully embrace their lives at BOTH houses is a critical piece in providing the environment to be well-adjusted. Sadly, when you have a parent who for whatever reason is unable to allow …
Children grow up VERY quickly… instead of getting lost in conflict, anger, resentment and selfishness– make it count for them.
Sometimes coparenting is just plain hard. Over the past couple of weeks, change in life circumstance has caused some strain on our coparenting relationship. It’s So Easy for You! I think Colleen and I are pretty good at coparenting. Over the years, we’ve managed to navigate the early stages of our daughter’s life together. We’ve …
